Is Unconditional Love Still a Thing?
How about you answer me when you’re done reading this?
Have romantic relationships changed?
Because there seems to be an emphasis on the ability of a man to provide and on women not being promiscuous and insubordinate since that isn’t a feminine virtue.
I have watched some videos on YouTube where women confidently say they want a man who can provide for them.
Is it wrong for a woman to want a man who can provide for her? It’s what she wants, and no one has the right to decide whether or not it’s wrong. But I think if all anyone needs from a partner is to be provided for, then they don’t need a partner.
They need themselves or a job. Who can provide for you better than yourself?
Is it also wrong for a man to demand chastity from a woman in an era of sex positivity? That’s what the man wants. Who’s to say whether or not it’s wrong?
But to be overly critical and provoked by her past love life, especially when you weren’t a part of it and haven’t taken the time to listen to her side of her story, is undoubtedly worrying.
It’s a trend
Now this “trend” has a lot of men and women asking themselves if there is something like unconditional love. Because as seen on social media, some women aren’t only looking for a man who can provide.
They want a dude that’s six feet tall, makes six figures annually, and has six-pack abs. Please feel free to add any “sixes” I left out.
And some men aren’t only looking for sexual “purity,” they want a woman who is submissive, subdominant, sub-what-what, etc.
Like Prince Akeem’s arranged bride-to-be in the 1988 American film Coming To America.
Yikes!
So any person — man or woman — with a good head on his or her shoulders is ruminating the thought: Well, if a woman or man is asking for these, then he or she will only be with me when I meet these conditions. So his or her love is conditional.
Therefore, they may ask, “Is it even possible to find unconditional love?”
The answer to the question is
It is impossible to find unconditional love when you don’t know what it is.Discovery is what you make when you don’t have prior knowledge of something. Certainly not unconditional love.
To help you know what it is, here’s a quote from me, yours truly:
Any condition that is insusceptible to change is unconditional.
For instance, your mom’s love for you is without a doubt unconditional. Not just because you’re her child, but because the state of being her child cannot change. So her love for you is not affected by external factors.
It is unwavering and deep-rooted without reason or credence.
That my brothers and sisters is unconditional love. You could say it’s blind, but that’s only because you’re the one who overlooks its unconditionality. The actors involved aren’t as condition-driven as you are.
Your love is just like theirs
Now that you know what unconditional love is, do you realise yours is based on conditions too? So the question to ask isn’t whether it’s possible to find unconditional love. What you should be asking is:
Is it possible to find love that I’m unwilling to give?
And yes, you’re unwilling to give it because to you it is blind and unreasonable.
Is a man or woman capable of giving something he or she doesn’t have? I don’t know the answer to that. You tell me.